This afternoon Ben asked me to come out and play in the back yard with him. I was putting the baby down for a nap and told him it would be a few minutes. He hollered as he walked out the back door, “I’ll be waiting!” in a sing song voice.
He actually sat on the grass in the middle of the yard with a shovel and waited. I could see him from the window as I went about what I was doing, and he just kept sitting. Perhaps this doesn’t sound as unusual to others as it is to me. My four-year old is never still. He is one giant mass of muscles because of how hard he plays – constantly. He climbs, he jumps, he swings from limb to limb on his jungle gym. I’ve caught him doing inverted crunches on his monkey bars. Not that he has any idea that he’s doing an inverted crunch – he’s just playing and he’s probably pretending to be Spiderman at the moment.
So – anyway – once I got the baby down for his nap – I rushed outside to see what Benjamin was up to. He wanted to show me his various climbs, and then he wanted to hug me and tell me a secret. He wrapped his arms around me and in a husky little voice, he said, “I’m so lucky to be your son.”
What made my little angel say such a lovely thing? Well – practice. Lots of practice.
It started a few months ago, and it actually started as my way to calm myself down when he was getting to me – when I’m frazzled and trying to do too much at once. I will breathe slowly in, and remember that he’s this little guy with his own little agenda. He’s not seeing things like I’m seeing things. And most likely – he’s not trying to get to me – he’s just being this adorable kid with a lot of energy and a wild imagination. I will slow down long enough to very quietly say to him – “I’m so lucky to be your mom.” Sometimes just slowing down and saying that sincerely is all I need to see a situation from the right perspective and keep my cool, even turn things around completely to be able to have fun again instead of butting heads.
Occasionally I get myself into a really bad place and feel all woe is me for having so much to do, and so many people depending on me, and no time for myself, no down time, no alone time… yada yada yada. I need to remind myself how lucky I am to have these amazing people in my life – this amazing family – this amazing business that my husband and I are managing. We have a great, outrageous life. It’s all in how we look at it. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed – but much more manageable with the right attitude.
So – I get grateful for my kids – and that changes everything. And then the best part. They learn to check their attitudes, and find gratitude also. They learn to cherish me back and tell me how lucky they are to have me. I can’t think of a more fantastic thing for a mom to hear – EVER!
Photo from here.